Bedhead Bob: Life and Times

 That's crazy! People are actually spending big money, to buy virtual real estate on the internet. They are also spending hours of their time, developing virtual lives, building houses, and accumulating virtual property, like cars and furniture, to what end?  Like any video game, it will lose its appeal, when the next new, hot thing comes along.  So much time and money gets wasted, on these virtual lives. Mostly because of the limiting beliefs, we allow to whisper into our ears.  Limiting beliefs, are those little voices in our heads, that tell us we are not smart enough, or not attractive enough, or thin enough, or whatever is keeping us, from our full potential.  So we rationalize, wasting our time on these virtual distractions, which can only bring us temporary happiness. And never moving us toward any real satisfaction in our lives.  Both my boys, claim they can't live without, cable and cell phones and streaming services. They have never really had to ...

 It's 5: 21 in the morning. I'm awakened because my condom catheter has failed. Causing me essentially, to wet my bed.  It's not easy for a 61-year-old to admit to wetting the bed, but a lot of things have changed for me in the past 11 months. I have had to resolve myself to excepting a great many changes. My pride went out the window a long ago.  I lie in bed and wonder if I want to trouble my wife with this. Finally, I decide that not telling her, might do more harm than good, and that waiting would probably cause my wife more work down the road.  Reluctantly, I set off the alarm to summon my wife.  When she got there, I told her what happened, and she immediately went to work stripping away everything that might be affected. The pillowcases of my arm pillows were wet, but the pillows themselves weren't wet. This made clear I had made the correct decision in calling for help.  The pads which are used to protect the bedding were wet and needed to be change...

 Anniversary  My one-year anniversary of my stroke is bittersweet. On September 22nd of last year, I began a journey, not by choice, that would become a struggle, which would easily become the most difficult of my life.  Challenges, that would question, my very will to go on living. The pain and discomfort, I would eventually, learn to tolerate, but the mental anguish is still difficult for me to cope with.  At times however, the pain is not bearable. Though people try, they seldom understand. This is not an affliction, the most highly trained medical professionals fully understand, so it is not unusual to me, that it is hard for the average person to do so.  I often don't know whether something I am experiencing, is a condition of my Locked in Syndrome (LiS ), or a factor of my aging. Especially if it is something not listed on any website about Locked in Syndrome (LiS). Since LiS is so rare, they might not have seen it enough to document it yet. There are thre...

 I did it again. I acceded my word count on the the program I use to write my BLOG. As I said before, once I reach a certain word count, the program doesn't just erase every word over the max amounted allowed, it erases every document I have saved!  I could understand if it were to give some kind of warning, but it doesn't. I don't mind telling you, I cried like a baby!  I only had around twenty posts lost this time, but several of them were completely done, just not published yet.  Completely my fault. The program was developed to keep a few addresses or phone numbers, not hours and hours of BLOG writings.  There are a few writings, I managed to rescue. I had gotten into the habit of copying and pasting some of my posts, as a text, to a spam phone number. It was undeliverable, so it always came back as "Failed to Deliver ", but could still be resurrected, if I ever needed to.  I thought I was out smarting the machine, but it only keeps so much, then it to ...

 Today was September 11, 21 years since the attack on the World Trade Center, which took 2753, of the 2977 people total, who died from the attacks on that day.  That is a day, which shall forever be etched into our memories. A day, deserving of all the reverence it gets.  The senseless taking of life, will never be justified, regardless of your religion or cause. To believe it is, is to be taking whatever religion you are claiming out of context.  For many religions claim to be the only true path. But I submit to you that any religion which calls for the killing of those persons who do not share your beliefs, is not a religion at all, but a cult!  I had a friend of mine taken in the twin towers. Richard Salinardi was his name. I had the pleasure of working with him one summer, at was then called the Riverport Amphitheater. And the honor of having him attend my wedding and reception. He had moved to New York to go to school, to become a film major.  Tens of ...

 We all need to be accountable, for our actions. Telling an outright lie, especially when that lie will get another person in trouble, it is simply wrong on many levels.  I say this, because recently a very good friend, relayed a story about how she had helped a man, only to have that man, completely misrepresent their encounter to her boss, while making her look like she didn't know how to do her job correctly. Mind you, there was a witness, who could prove he wasn't telling the truth.  Naturally, my friend was very upset, she then had the chance to confront the man. She acted professional, a lot more than I could have been, and told him how she didn't appreciate his misrepresentation of their encounter.  Are you kidding me?! Misrepresentation? Short of punching the guy in the nose. I would have called the guy a lier, along with a few other choice words, but I guess my people skills preclude me from working around the public. Besides, telling someone off using a mac...

I don't know how the topic came up, but my Dad once told a story, while we sat around the table, at my grandparent's, one Thanksgiving holiday, of the bathhouses he used to use as a young man. It wasn't until high school that their home had the luxury of indoor plumbing! I was astonished, as I had always grown up in a home with a bathroom, and it was hard for me to imagine, not having a bathroom in my home.  I can remember looking at my father and wondering how he could possibly have lived that way. Running down the street, just to take a shower. I suppose it was the norm for him, as it was for many in those days.  If you think about it, every generation has its version of indoor plumbing; something that the next generation can't remember a time that they had to live without. For me, it was indoor plumbing. For my daughter it's computers, cellphones, and TV remotes, things of technology mostly. Although I'm sure that over the years, there were other things, that...

Something I was watching, made me think of the fact, that there are people who will never enjoy the beauty of a snowy day. Or never see the magnificence, of a ocean sunset. And will live their entire lives, but never know the beauty and tranquility, of a lush green forest, on a warm summers day.  None of this will have much effect on who we are, or who we will become. They are just some of the wonders of this life that we have the good fortune to get to experience, if we are lucky.  The point is, we don't know, what we don't know. Knowing or not knowing anything, does not make us greater or lesser persons. As long as we strive to be better people.  Our life on this planet, is finite. And ends for us all, in much the same manner. None of us ever get out alive. Our time here, may seem long for us, but is in fact, just a blink of an eye, in the grand scheme of things.  We pick a vocation, or one picks us, out of necessity. We allow it to define us, and consume one third...